Last week, we discussed using a compassion practice to be kind to ourselves in moments of struggle. This may be a lot harder than it sounds for many of us. One of the blocks, many of us have to being kind to ourselves in moments of struggle, are should thoughts. Should thoughts, are pervasive thoughts that can pop up in almost any situation. “I should be doing more with my child who is struggling in school.” “I should be exercising more.” “I should be kinder to my spouse.” “I should be doing better at work.” The list goes on and on. We are somehow always at a deficit, never feeling like we are whole and perfect just as we are today.
Stepping OFF the Treadmill
When we feel like we should be trying harder and doing better it is very difficult to have compassion for ourselves. Stuck in these thoughts, it can almost feel like we do not deserve compassion. It is a circle of thinking that can easily trap us causing us to feel worse and worse about ourselves. We react by trying harder and harder. It’s like being stuck on a treadmill thinking, if I just run faster I will finally get to rest but in reality, rest will only come if we step OFF the treadmill.