Before you get out of bed in the morning, maybe before you even open your eyes, notice and enjoy 10 mindful breaths.
A New School Year is Here
School is about to start and our already busy schedule is about to get that much crazier. We’ll be juggling lunches, schedules, homework, sports as well as everything we already have on our plate. As we head into the fall and say farewell to summer wouldn’t it be nice to slow everything down. Slow life down like they can in the movies. Of course, this is not possible but we can slow down for a few minutes a day in hopes to increase our mindfulness each and every day throughout the day.…read more
- Yoga with Adriane – YouTube Channel. You can join me in completing her most recent 30-day Yoga Journey | True. Yoga is a wonderful stress reliever. Take a half hour to tune into your body and take care of yourself. I like Yoga with Adriane because she puts out a very positive message about taking care of ourselves when we often find that difficult. I also like that it is free and I can do it any time anywhere.
Start a great tradition this year. Goal setting is usually something we think of doing as individuals, in our careers, related to our health, or fitness. However, when you are married your future is linked with someone else’s so setting goals together makes them that much more tangible.
Wait, don’t stop reading yet! I still inwardly groan at the idea of meditation too but hear me out. I have heard about mindfulness and meditation for years now. They always sounded good, like something peaceful happy people would do. Not feeling as serene and content as I would like to, as often as I would like to, I was not sure meditation or mindfulness were for me. In other words, they had felt unattainable.
The combination of having a desperate need for keeping my calm (three children under the age of three) and being continually presented with research on the benefits of mindfulness and meditation led me to give first meditation followed by mindfulness a shot. I have stuck with both since.
As we plan our holiday visits, it is not uncommon to have a sense of unease or even dread about being around certain family members. Perhaps you could handle that family member for a few hours on holidays but what becomes very difficult to walk through is the tension that seeps into our relationship as one or both people in a couple start to think about an upcoming visit with family.
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
This week giving thanks and gratitude are on all of our minds. However, finding gratitude in our marriage is not always easy.
We have started a tradition with my children where each meal we go around the table and each say what we are grateful for. I am sure this practice benefits my children but what I have noticed is how much it makes me think about what I’m grateful for and how so often my mindset is not gratitude. Instead I find myself in mindsets of feeling sorry for myself, being frustrated, or disappointed.
A new baby has just been brought home. What a beautiful time in a couple’s life but it can also bring new challenges. Some of the biggest challenges a couple faces when they have children are increased stress, sleep deprivation, and less down time together. All of these challenge the couple to turn toward and rely on each other. The goal is to come to each other with concerns, frustrations, fears, etc. Versus keeping thoughts and emotions to ourselves and trying to manage all of the changes on our own. We were built for connection and to lean on our partner in times of stress and transition.
Many Others Are with You
There are so many times throughout the day as a parent I need a pause. A moment to find calm and reset my mood. I find myself caught up and stuck in frustration, irritation, anger, or worry. I can see my thoughts have sort of gone off line, become less than rational, and I find myself beginning to react to the situation in a way that I can see is making things worse. It feels like I’m crashing but somehow being aware of it does not bring enough clarity to get things back on track.