All couples experience conflict in their relationship. These conflicts may be minor disagreements or major fights which have left one or both of you feeling angry, disconnected and isolated in your relationship. After a major fight, many people feel so defeated and exhausted the idea of trying to apologize or reconnect seems unrealistic. You may also fear the fight starting all over again, if you try to talk about it. It may be easier to let time pass, let feelings cool off, and sort of pretend it never happened. The unfortunate reality is not repairing after fights, may leave wounds in your relationship only to be reopened again and again with each future conflict.
In the first years of my own marriage, at times, I was the impulsive yeller and found it easy to apologize once I had calmed down. However, it was difficult to be patient when my husband was not ready to talk or forgive so quickly. Gaining a better understanding of my role in the conflict and being empathetic of how the conflict affected my husband has helped me be patient with the repairing process after a fight.
3 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Attempting to Repair with Your Partner After a Fight