Sliding Door Moments: Opportunities to Be There for Your Partner
Author and researcher, John Gottman, uses the term sliding door moments to describe opportunities to connect with our partners. These are often micro moments of potential to let your partner know you care, you are there for them, and they can count on you. The term sliding door fits well because these occasions can be so fleeting they are easily missed. Mixed in with other blog posts below are real life sliding door moments that I see in relationships all around me, including my own. Some moments were embraced and perhaps created stronger bonds for the couple while others were missed. I hope highlighting these real life sliding door moments in other’s relationships will help you seek out and take advantage of the opportunity they provided to turn towards your partner and build trust in your own relationship.
Sliding Door Moments #4
Over the holidays I visited my parents and stayed in their home. A couple days after Christmas my Mom told us she had not been feeling well for a few days. She had since been to the doctor and now knew everything was ok. However, on Christmas morning she had been experiencing pain and was concerned. Not wanting to worry everyone in the house, she let my Dad in on what was going on and how she was feeling. Concerned about his wife and knowing she was not feeling well, Dad offered to take Mom to the ER on Christmas morning instead of going to church. This meant a lot to Mom because she knew her husband was concerned about her and cared enough to offer to miss Christmas Mass, one of the most important masses of the year for both of them. They did not end up going to the ER that morning but the offer to go was a gesture of concern and caring that let Mom know Dad is there for her when she needs him.