Relationships, marriage, and communication are not always easy. If you find yourself reading this because you are currently caught in a difficult place with your partner I hope you find something helpful here.
I understand the frustration and pain of distance, silence, or arguing from a personal and professional level. I have been married myself for 12 years and in a relationship with my husband for 17 years. We are the proud and sometimes tired parents of three small children. We have been through a lot together and it has not always been easy. It is painful when even talking to the person who means so much to you feels impossible.
Have you heard, said or thought any of these things? You are not alone.
“All I hear is what I am doing wrong.”
“It’s like we are roommates or brother and sister. There is no passion or romance between us.”
“You never come near me or even touch me.”
“You are never here. Even when you are here you are somewhere else.”
“I never get it right. It’s never enough for you. If it is not this it will be something else.”
“It’s all on me. I have to take care of everything myself. I’m on my own.”
“You never initiate sex. It is always up to me.”
“You don’t listen. No matter how hard I try, I can never get through to you.”
Becoming an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, Johnson Pg 148
These are statements I hear in my office everyday and couple’s counselors hear them around the world. If you have felt this way in your relationship you are not alone. Research shows these are some of the most common feelings one or both partners struggle with in their relationships.
I help couples make sense of what is happening between them – Why things sometimes get out of hand, why small conflicts turn into tension or not talking, why even though they love and care about each other they go to bed frustrated and feeling alone.
Couples begin to understand where they are stuck, see how they got to this place after years of marriage, and finally see a way out. Partners paint a picture of what they once had together and what they need and want back in their marriage: friendship, having a partner in one another, having each other’s back, being accepted flaws and all, and knowing we are in this together.
Using research based methods I walk with couples from the starting points above to where they want to be in their marriage.
“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.” ~Helen Keller
“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
Making the decision to begin therapy and who to begin with is not an easy one. Call 832-361-1547 or e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org to ask any questions you have or discuss if I may be a good fit for you. I look forward to speaking with you.