Relationships, marriage, and communication are not always easy. It is painful when we are stuck in patterns of tension and unable to communicate with our partner. If you find yourself reading this because you are currently caught in a difficult place with your partner I hope you find something helpful here.

I help couples:

Gain insight into their disconnection

Begin to communicate clearly and vulnerably

Come together to face their disconnection

Find new ways to reach for each other

Strengthen intimacy & mutual sexual pleasure

“You are never here. Even when you are here you are somewhere else.”

“All I hear is what I am doing wrong.”

“It’s all on me. I have to take care of everything myself. I’m on my own.”

“It’s like we are roommates. There is no passion or romance between us.”

“You never come near me or even touch me.”

“You don’t listen. No matter how hard I try, I can never get through to you.”

“I never get it right. It’s never enough for you. If it is not this it will be something else.”

“You never initiate sex. It is always up to me.”

Becoming an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, Johnson Pg 148

These are statements I hear in my office everyday. If you have felt this way in your relationship you are not alone. Research shows these are some of the most common feelings one or both partners struggle with in their relationships.