One of the most common things couples bring into my office is also one of the least talked about openly. One partner wants to be sexual more frequently. The other does not. Or one partner initiates and the other declines more often than not. And...
Most of us learned how to be in relationships before we had any say in the matter. The families we grew up in, the early relationships we had, the messages we received about whether we could count on the people we loved — all of...
Something small is brought up. Maybe it is the division of household labor. Maybe it is a simple question — why were you outside so long this evening? The other partner feels a little bit of a jab. The second partner either goes quiet or...
Most couples wait five or more years after problems begin before seeking help. By then, the patterns are deeply entrenched and what started as a small disconnect has grown into something that feels much harder to reach across. It does not have to be that...
We have a difficult job as therapists. We have to help people move closer to feelings and emotions that do not feel safe or they do not want to feel. What do we do if a client feels fragile? How do we work with their...
Couples Counseling Katy Texas It is easy as therapists to get caught up in couples' stories and details. Unfortunately we have a very limited time in our couples therapy sessions so it is critical that we know what we need to be talking about and...
When we as therapists see our clients doing things that are hurting themselves or their partner it is difficult not to try to change them. But EFT research tells us trying to change people does not work. So what does work, Truly seeing the good...
It can be very difficult one to work with highly escalated couples and two to move toward each partner and their reactivity. Join Michelle and Dr. Laura Spiller in talking about how to name and work with highly escalated couples in EFT couples therapy. Be...