Blog for Therapists: Getting Caught in Content

Couples can bring a lot of information, stories and examples into each session. This can be overwhelming as a therapist. We have to figure out what is relevant and what is extra information we do not currently need.

I have found the EFT cycle as an invaluable tool when it comes to getting caught in content. The cycle gives me focus and helps me sift through what I hear from clients listening for emotional handles.

I listen for the cue that gets the couple into their cycle, their behaviors or how they react when the cue occurs. I ask about their perceptions of themselves, their partner and the relationship. I ask about their (usually obvious) secondary emotions, i.e. the emotion we see on the outside. Then I get curious about their softer more vulnerable emotions underlying all of the above. I also want to understand what unmet needs and longings are coming up in the interaction.

I unpack one interaction at a time looking for themes that are often present for the couple.

Learn more about how to avoid getting caught in content in the video below.

Michelle Puster M.Ed., LPC

Certified EFT Couples Therapist Supervisor

AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

Certified Clinical Trauma Professional

Katy Couples & Wellness Counseling

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