Blog for Therapists: Truly See the Good vs Trying to Change

As therapists when we see our clients engaging in behaviors that are destructive to themselves and the relationship we might be inclined to zone in on the ineffective behavior in hopes in eradicate it.

This would miss an important point in EFT couple’s therapy, seeing negative behaviors as protective strategies.

Yes, the behaviors might be ineffective but as EFT trainer George Faller says there must be a good reason a partner is reacting or behaving the way they are. It is our jobs as therapist to get curious and see how our couple’s behaviors are serving and protecting them.

This compassionate approach creates safety to explore all different kinds of difficult behaviors and from this place it is easier for people to make the changes they desire. They are able to find more safety in their relationship and need negative coping strategies less and less over time.

Check out the video below to learn more.

Michelle Puster M.Ed., LPC

Certified EFT Couples Therapist Supervisor

AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

Certified Clinical Trauma Professional

Katy Couples & Wellness Counseling

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