When you daydreamed of holding your new born, playing with your toddler at the park, or watching your child’s first little league game, I am sure you never imagined being internally filled with stress, having feelings of anxiousness, or just being down, finding it hard to relax and enjoy the moment.
I certainly did not anticipate the level of stress and the feelings of being overwhelmed, I have felt as a new mother and as my children have continued to grow. I have never had to dig as deep or spend as much time searching for help and guidance.
Parenting a Joyful Experience?
The messages we often get are that having a new baby is a joyful experience, raising toddlers is delightful, and as our kids continue to grow parenting just becomes more fulfilling. However; if we don’t always feel this way or rarely feel the joy of parenting, we are instead filled with shame. There must be something wrong with me because I cannot enjoy parenting more, easily manage my child’s difficult behavior, and continue to grow closer to my spouse as our family grows.
As a society, we no longer raise our children in small communities where we learn from our Mothers, Grandmothers, or Aunts that they too had similar struggles, letting us know we are not alone. Instead, we are often distant from family either geographically, relationally, or both. We may not have a strong sense of community or a place we feel we truly belong. We may or may not have friends with children going through the same things. If we do, we may not be close enough to share our real struggles. Instead, the relationship feels more like a comparison game were we always come up short. Thinking to ourselves, “They seem to have it all figured out, being so calm and happy. Why can’t I feel that way?”
Know you are not alone & you are doing a great job!
I help women:
Gain a better understanding of their inner world, making sense of their struggle
Develop a practice of caring for themselves deeply, keeping our depleted tanks from becoming totally empty
Learn how to respond rather than react to their children’s normal but frustrating behaviors
Communicate their needs and feelings to their spouse in a way their spouse can hear them